•  “Abangane abakhulu abavame ukuxabana”

•  Izizathu ezimbili zokwenza ukuthula

•  Okushiwo ontanga

 Izingane zandawonye ziye zabizwa ngokuthi “abangane abakhulu ongaba nabo kodwa abaxabana njalo.” Uyazithanda nazo ziyakuthanda​—kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuba sengathi anizwani nhlobo. UHelena oneminyaka engu-18 uthi: “Umfowethu omncane uyangicasula. Uzazi kahle izindlela zokungicasula nezikhathi ezikahle zokukwenza lokho!”

 Ezinye izingxabano zezingane zandawonye zingaxazululeka kalula nje ngokusebenzisa amakhono okukhulumisana kahle nokuxoxa. Ngokwesibonelo:

•   Abafana ababili abayizelamani abasebenzisa ikamelo elilodwa bangabanga indaba yokunikana isikhathi sokuthi ngamunye abe yedwa ekamelweni. Isixazululo? Fundani ukwehlela ngezansi ninikane isikhathi ngamunye asidingayo sokuba yedwa. Sebenzisani isimiso seBhayibheli esitholakala kuLuka 6:​31.

•   Amantombazane amabili ayizelamani angasebenzisa izingubo zokugqoka zomunye nomunye ngaphandle kokucela. Isixazululo? Xoxani ngakho bese nibeka imingcele enengqondo. Sebenzisani isimiso seBhayibheli esitholakala kweyesi-2 Thimothewu 2:​24.

 Kwezinye izimo, izinkinga phakathi kwezelamani ziba nkulu kakhulu futhi zingaba nemiphumela enzima. Cabanga ngezibonelo ezimbili eziseBhayibhelini:

•   UMiriyamu no-Aroni babenomona ngomfowabo uMose, kwaba nemiphumela edabukisayo. Funda ukulandisa okukuNumeri 12:​1-​15. Yibe usuzibuza: ‘Ngingakugwema kanjani ukuba nomona ngengane yakithi?’

•   Intukuthelo kaKhayini yakhula kwaze kwaba sezingeni lokubulala umfowabo u-Abela. Funda ukulandisa okukuGenesise 4:​1-​12. Yibe usuzibuza: ‘Ngingayilawula kanjani intukuthelo yami lapho ngisebenzelana nomfowethu noma udadewethu?’

 Noma kunganzima kangakanani ukuzwana nezingane zakini, kunezizathu okungenani ezimbili ezenza kube kuhle ukwenza umzamo.

1.   Kuwuphawu lokuvuthwa. Insizwa ebizwa ngo-Alex ithi: “Ngangivame ukuba nenhliziyo encane lapho ngisebenzelana nodadewethu ababili abancane. Manje sengehlisa umoya futhi ngibabonise isineke. Ungasho nje ukuthi, sengikhulile.”

    IBhayibheli lithi: “Owephuzayo ukuthukuthela ugcwele ukuqonda, kodwa ongenaso isineke uphakamisa ubuwula.”​—IzAga 14:29.

2.   Kukuqeqeshela kahle ikusasa. Uma ungakwazi ukubekezelela ukushiyeka kwezingane zakini, uyokwazi kanjani ukuphilisana noshada naye, osebenza naye, umqashi kanye nanoma ubani okuyodingeka usebenzelane naye?

    Iqiniso elingenakuphikwa: Ukuphumelela kwanoma yibuphi ubudlelwane oyoba nabo esikhathini esizayo kuyoncika emakhonweni akho okukhulumisana nokuxoxisana, futhi ayikho enye indawo engcono yokuhlakulela lawo makhono okudlula ekhaya.

    IBhayibheli lithi: “Ngokusemandleni enu, yibani nokuthula nabantu bonke.”​—Roma 12:18.

 Ungalujabulela usizo ekuxazululeni izinkinga nezingane zakini? Funda isihlokwana esithi “Okushiwo ontanga,” bese ubheka ishadi lomsebenzi elihambisana naso elithi, “Ukuzwana Nezingane Zakini.”