Usenokufuna ukutshintsha yonke into ngexesha elinye. Uzixelela oku, ‘Yabona, kule veki ndiza kuyeka ukutshaya, ukuthuka nokulala ebusuku kakhulu, ndiqalise ukujima, ukutya kakuhle nokufowunela utat’ omkhulu nomakhulu.’ Ngokuqinisekileyo ukuzama ukwenza yonke into ngexesha elinye kubangela ukuba ungabi senza nenye yazo!

Umntu othozamileyo uyazazi izinto anokukwazi ukuzenza nangenakuzenza. Uyaqonda ukuba ixesha analo lilinganiselwe, ngokunjalo namandla nezinto anazo. Ngoko, kunokuba afune ukutshintsha yonke into ngexesha elinye, uzitshintsha ngokuthe ngcembe.

Zamana nomkhwa omnye okanye emibini ngexesha. Ezi ziindlela zokukwenza oku ibe zisenokukunceda:

1. Yenza uludwe lwemikhwa elungileyo ofuna ukuba nayo nolwemikhwa emibi ofuna ukwahlukana nayo. Bhala yonke imikhwa ocinga ngayo.

2. Yilandelelanise imikhwa ekuludwe lwakho ngokubaluleka kwayo.

3. Khetha imikhwa embalwa—mhlawumbi omnye okanye emibini kuludwe ngalunye, uze uzame ukuba nayo okanye ukwahlukana nayo. Emva koko yiya komnye okanye emibini elandelayo kuludwe ngalunye.

Unokukukhawulezisa oku ngokuvala isikhewu somkhwa ombi ngolungileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba kuludwe lwemikhwa emibi ubhale ukuba ubukela kakhulu umabonwakude waza kweyemikhwa elungileyo wabhala ukuba ufuna ukunxulumana nabantu obathandayo, usenokugqiba koku: ‘Endaweni yokuba ndivule umabonwakude ndisafika nje endlini, ndiza kufowunela umhlobo okanye isizalwana sikhe sincokole.’