1. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻe niʻihi te ne fakatupunga nai ʻa e ngaahi māvahevahe ʻi he ngaahi fāmilí?

 FIEFIAĀ ka ko e faʻahinga ʻoku nau kau ki he ngaahi fāmili ʻa ia ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e ʻofá, mahinó, mo e melinó. Fakatauange, ko hoʻoú fāmili ko ha fāmili pehē. ʻOku fakamamahi ke leaʻaki, ʻoku ʻikai malava ʻa e ngaahi fāmili taʻefaʻalaua ke feʻungamālie mo e fakamatala ko iá pea ʻoku nau māvahevahe ʻi ha ngaahi ʻuhinga. Ko e hā ʻokú ne fakamavahevaheʻi ʻa e ngaahi fāmilí? ʻI he vahé ni te tau lāulea ai ki he ngaahi meʻa ʻe tolu. ʻI he ngaahi fāmili ʻe niʻihi, ʻoku ʻikai ke kau kotoa ʻa e ngaahi mēmipá ʻi he lotu tatau. ʻI he ngaahi fāmili kehé, ʻoku ʻikai nai ke maʻu ʻe he fānaú ʻa e ongo mātuʻa fakaenatula tatau. ʻI he niʻihi kehe, ko e fāinga ke maʻu ha moʻuí pe ko e holi ki he ngaahi meʻa fakamatelie lahi angé ʻoku hā ngali ʻokú ne fakamavahevaheʻi ʻa e ngaahi mēmipa ʻo e fāmilí. Neongo ia, ko e ngaahi tuʻunga ʻokú ne fakamavahevahe ha fāmili ʻe tahá ʻe ʻikai nai te ne uesia ʻe ia ha toe fāmili ʻe taha. Ko e hā ʻokú ne ʻai ʻa e faikehekehé?

2. Ko fē ʻoku hanga ki ai ʻa e niʻihi ki ha tataki ʻi he moʻui fakafāmilí, ka ko e hā ʻa e matavai lelei taha ʻo e tataki peheé?

² Ko e meʻa tefito ʻe taha ko e anga ʻo e fakakaukaú. Kapau ʻokú ke feinga fakamātoato ke mahinoʻi ʻa e anga ʻo e fakakaukau ʻa e tokotaha ʻe tahá, ngalingali ʻe lahi ange ai ʻa hoʻo ʻiloʻilo ki he founga ke maluʻi ai ha fāmili fāʻūtaha. Ko ha meʻa tefito hono uá ko e matavai ʻo ho tatakí. ʻOku muimui ʻa e kakai tokolahi ki he akonaki ʻa e kaungāngāué, ngaahi kaungāʻapí, kau faʻu kōlomu ʻi he nusipepá, pe ko e ngaahi tataki fakaetangata kehé. Neongo ia, kuo ʻiloʻi ʻe he niʻihi ʻa e meʻa ʻoku leaʻaki ʻe he Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá ʻo fekauʻaki mo honau tuʻungá, pea nau toki ngāueʻaki leva ʻa e meʻa kuo nau akó. ʻOku malava fēfē ke  tokoniʻi ha fāmili ʻi hono fai ení ke tauhi maʻu ai ʻa e melinó ʻi he ʻapí?​—2 Timote 3:​16, 17.

3. (a) Ko e hā ʻa e akonaki ʻa e Tohitapú ʻo fekauʻaki mo e mali mo ha taha ʻi ha tui kehé? (e) Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni tefito ʻe niʻihi ʻoku ngāueʻaki kapau ko e hoa mali ʻe tahá ko ha tokotaha tui pea ʻoku ʻikai pehē ʻa e tokotaha kehé?

³ ʻOku faleʻi mālohi mai ʻa e Tohitapú kiate kitautolu ʻo fakafepakiʻi ʻa e mali mo ha taha ʻokú ne maʻu ha tui fakalotu kehé. (Teutalonome 7:​3, 4; 1 Kolinito 7:39) Kae kehe, mahalo pē, kuó ke ako ʻa e moʻoni mei he Tohitapú hili hoʻo malí ka naʻe ʻikai pehē ʻa ho husepānití. Ko e hā leva ʻe hokó? Ko e moʻoni, ʻoku kei mohu ʻuhinga pē ʻa e ngaahi fuakava ʻo e nofo malí. (1 Kolinito 7:10) ʻOku fakamamafaʻi ʻe he Tohitapú ʻa e tuʻumaʻu ʻa e haʻi ʻo e nofo malí pea fakalototoʻaʻi ʻa e kakai malí ke nau fakaleleiʻi ʻenau ngaahi faikehekehé kae ʻikai ke hola meiate kinautolu. (Efeso 5:​28-31; Taitusi 2:​4, 5) Fēfē leva, kapau ʻoku fakafepaki mālohi ho husepānití ki hoʻo tōʻongaʻaki ʻa e lotu ʻa e Tohitapú? Te ne feinga nai ke taʻofi koe mei he ʻalu ki he ngaahi fakataha ʻa e fakatahaʻangá, pe te ne pehē nai ʻoku ʻikai te ne loto ke ʻalu ʻa hono uaifí ʻi he fale ki he falé, ʻo talanoa fekauʻaki mo e lotú. Ko e hā te ke faí?

4. ʻI he founga fē ʻoku lava ai ke fakahaaʻi ʻe ha uaifi ʻa e kaungāongoʻí kapau ʻoku ʻikai kau ʻa hono husepānití ʻi heʻene tuí?

⁴ ʻEke hifo kiate koe, ‘Ko e hā ʻoku ongoʻi pehē ai ʻa hoku husepānití?’ (Palovepi 16:​20, 23) Kapau ʻoku ʻikai moʻoni te ne mahinoʻi ʻa e meʻa ʻokú ke faí, te ne hohaʻa nai ʻo fekauʻaki mo koe. Pe ʻokú ne ʻi he malumalu nai ʻo ha tenge mei hono ngaahi kāingá koeʻuhi ko e ʻikai te ke kei kau ʻi he ngaahi anga fakafonua ʻe niʻihi ʻa ia ʻoku mahuʻinga kiate kinautolú. “ʻI he nofo tokotaha ʻi he falé, naʻá ku ongoʻi līʻekina,” ko e lea ia ʻa ha husepāniti ʻe taha. Naʻe ongoʻi ʻe he tangatá ni kuo mole meiate ia ʻa hono uaifí ki ha lotu. Neongo ia naʻe taʻofi ia ʻe heʻene pōlepolé mei hono fakahaaʻi naʻá ne taʻelatá. ʻE fiemaʻu nai ʻe ho husepānití ʻa e fakafiemālie ʻa ia ko hoʻo ʻofa kia Sihová ʻoku ʻikai ʻuhinga ia aí ʻokú ke ʻofa he taimí ni ʻi ho husepānití  ʻo siʻisiʻi ange ʻi hoʻo ʻofa kiate ia ʻi he kuohilí. Fakapapauʻi ke fakamoleki ha taimi mo ia.

5. Ko e hā ʻa e mafamafatatau kuo pau ke tauhi ʻe he uaifi ʻa ia ko hono husepānití ʻoku ʻi ha tui kehé?

⁵ Kae kehe, ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e meʻa ʻoku toe mahuʻinga ange ia kuo pau ke fakakaukau ki ai kapau ʻokú ke fiemaʻu ke fekuki fakapotopoto mo e tuʻungá. ʻOku enginaki mai ʻe he Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá ki he ngaahi uaifí: “Fakavaivai [“anganofo,” NW] akimoutolu ki ho mou unoho o moutolu, he oku gali ia i he Eiki.” (Kolose 3:​18, PM) Ko ia, ʻoku fakatokanga mai ai ʻo fekauʻaki mo ha laumālie ʻo e faʻifaʻitelihá. Tānaki atu ki ai, ʻi he pehē “he oku gali ia i he Eiki,” ʻoku fakahaaʻi ʻe he konga Tohitapu ko ení ko e anganofo ki hoto husepānití ʻoku totonu ke toe fakakaukau ki ai ko e anganofo ia ki he ʻEikí. Kuo pau ke ʻi ai ha mafamafatatau.

6. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ʻoku totonu ke manatuʻi ʻe ha uaifi Kalisitiane?

⁶ Ki ha Kalisitiane, ko hono maʻu ʻa e ngaahi fakataha ʻa e fakatahaʻangá pea mo e faifakamoʻoni ki he niʻihi  kehé ʻo fekauʻaki mo ʻete tui makatuʻunga ʻi he Tohitapú ko e ongo tafaʻaki mahuʻinga ia ʻo e lotu moʻoní ʻa ia ʻoku ʻikai fiemaʻu ke liʻaki. (Loma 10:​9, 10, 14; Hepelu 10:​24, 25) Ko e hā leva te ke faí, kapau ʻoku fekauʻi hangatonu koe ʻe ha tangata ke ʻoua te ke fai ki ha fiemaʻu fakahangatonu ʻa e ʻOtuá? Naʻe talaki ʻe he kau ʻapositolo ʻa Sīsū Kalaisí: “ʻOku totonu pe ke fai ki he pule ʻa e ʻOtua ʻi he pule ʻa e tangata.” (Ngāue 5:29) ʻOku tokonaki mai ʻe heʻenau faʻifaʻitakiʻangá ha meʻa naʻe hoko ki muʻa ʻa ia ʻoku kaunga ki he ngaahi tuʻunga lahi ʻi he moʻuí. ʻE hanga ʻe he ʻofa kia Sihová ʻo ueʻi koe ke ke ʻoange kiate ia ʻa e līʻoa ʻoku ʻaʻana totonu iá? ʻI he taimi tatau, ʻe fakatupunga ʻe hoʻo ʻofa mo e ʻapasia ki ho husepānití ke ke feinga ke fai eni ʻi ha founga ʻa ia ʻokú ne ala talí?​—Mātiu 4:10; 1 Sione 5:3.

7. Ko e hā ʻa e fakapapau kuo pau ke maʻu ʻe ha uaifi Kalisitiane?

⁷ Naʻe ʻiloʻi ʻe Sīsū ʻe ʻikai ke ala lava maʻu pē ʻa e meʻá ni. Naʻá ne fakatokanga ʻo pehē koeʻuhi ko e fakafepaki ki he lotu moʻoní, ko e ngaahi mēmipa ʻoku tui ʻo e ngaahi fāmili ʻe niʻihi te nau ongoʻi fakamavaheʻi, ʻo hangē kuo hoko mai ha heletā ʻi honau vahaʻá mo e toenga ʻo e fāmilí. (Mātiu 10:​34-36) Naʻe hokosia eni ʻe ha fefine ʻi Siapani. Naʻe fakafepakiʻi ia ʻe hono husepānití ʻo feʻunga mo e taʻu ʻe 11. Naʻá ne ngaohikoviʻi anga-fefeka ia pea toutou lokaʻi ia ʻi tuʻa mei he falé. Ka naʻá ne kītaki. Naʻe tokoniʻi ia ʻe he ngaahi kaumeʻa ʻi he fakatahaʻanga Kalisitiané. Naʻá ne lotu taʻetuku pea maʻu ʻa e fakalototoʻa lahi mei he 1 Pita 2:20. Naʻe tuipau ʻa e fefine Kalisitiane ko ení kapau te ne hanganaki tuʻumaʻu, ʻe ʻi ai ha ʻaho ʻe kau fakataha ai mo ia ʻa hono husepānití ʻi hono tauhi ʻo Sihová. Pea naʻá ne fai pehē.

8, 9. ʻOku totonu ke fēfē ʻa e ngāue ʻa ha uaifi ke kalofi ʻa hono ʻai ha ngaahi fakafaingataʻaʻiaʻanga ʻoku ʻikai fiemaʻu ki hono husepānití?

⁸ ʻOku lahi ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻaonga ʻe lava ke ke fai ke ueʻi ai ʻa e fakakaukau ʻa ho hoá. Ko e fakatātaá, kapau ʻoku fakafepaki ʻa ho husepānití ki hoʻo lotú, ʻoua ʻe ʻoange kiate ia ha ngaahi tupuʻanga totonu ke lāunga ai ʻi ha ngaahi tafaʻaki kehe. Tauhi ʻa e ʻapí ke maʻa. Tokanga ki ho fōtunga fakafoʻituituí. Loto-fiefoaki fakataha mo e ngaahi fakahāhā ʻo e ʻofá mo e houngaʻiá. ʻI he ʻikai fakaangá,  hoko ʻo poupou. Fakahaaʻi ʻokú ke hanga kiate ia ki he tuʻunga-ʻulú. ʻOua ʻe faisāuni kapau ʻokú ke ongoʻi kuo fai atu ha hala kiate koe. (1 Pita 2:​21, 23) Fai ha ngaahi fakaʻatā ki he taʻehaohaoa fakaetangatá, pea kapau ʻoku malanga hake ha fakakikihi, hoko anga-fakatōkilalo ʻo ʻuluaki kole fakamolemole.​—Efeso 4:26.

⁹ ʻOua ʻe ʻai hoʻo maʻu ʻa e ngaahi fakatahá ke hoko ko ha ʻuhinga ia ke tōmui ai ʻa ʻene ngaahi houa kaí. Te ke toe fili nai ke kau ʻi he ngāue fakafaifekau faka-Kalisitiané ʻi he ngaahi taimi ʻoku ʻikai ke ʻi ʻapi ai ʻa ho husepānití. ʻOku fakapotopoto ki ha uaifi Kalisitiane ke fakaʻehiʻehi mei he malanga ki hono husepānití ʻi he taimi ʻoku ʻikai te ne talitali lelei ai ení. Ka, ʻokú ne muimui ki he akonaki ʻa e ʻapositolo ko Pitá: “ʻA kau fefine, mou anganofo ki homou ngaahi husepaniti; koeʻuhi ka ai ha niʻihi ʻoku talangataʻa ki he folofola, heiʻilo ʻe maʻu mai kinautolu ʻaki ʻa e ngaahi toʻonga ʻa honau ngaahi uaifi, kae ʻikai ʻaki ha lea; heʻenau mamata ki he maʻa ʻo hoʻomou fakafeangai mo taka ʻapasia.” (1 Pita 3:​1, 2) ʻOku ngāue ʻo toe kakato ange ʻa e ngaahi uaifi Kalisitiané ʻi hono fakahāhā ʻa e ngaahi fua ʻo e laumālie ʻo e ʻOtuá.​—Kaletia 5:​22, 23.

10. ʻOku totonu ke fēfē ʻa e tōʻonga ʻa ha husepāniti tui ki hono uaifí kapau ʻokú ne ʻi ha tui kehe?

¹⁰ Fēfē kapau ko e husepānití ʻoku tui faka-Kalisitiané kae ʻikai ko e uaifí? ʻOku ʻomai ʻe he Tohitapú ʻa e fakahinohino ki he ngaahi tuʻunga peheé. ʻOkú ne pehē: “Kabau oku ai ha [tokoua] oku maʻu ae unoho taetui, bea oku loto lelei ia ke na nonofo, ke oua naa ne liaki ia.” (1 Kolinito 7:​12, PM) ʻOku toe naʻinaʻi ai ki he ngaahi husepānití: “Mou ʻofa ki homou ngaahi uaifi.”—Kolose 3:19.

11. ʻOku lava fēfē ke fakahaaʻi ʻe ha husepāniti ʻa e ʻiloʻiló pea ngāueʻi fakapotopoto ʻa e tuʻunga-ʻulú ki hono uaifí kapau ʻoku ʻikai ke ne tui faka-Kalisitiane?

¹¹ Kapau ko ha husepāniti koe ʻo ha uaifi ʻokú ne maʻu ha tui ʻoku kehe ia mei haʻaú, tokanga tautefito ke fakahaaʻi ʻa e ʻapasia ki ho uaifí pea fakaʻatuʻi ʻa ʻene ngaahi ongoʻí. ʻI he tuʻunga ko ha tokotaha lahí, ʻokú ne tuha  mo ha tuʻunga ʻo e tauʻatāina ke fai ki heʻene ngaahi tui fakalotú, neongo kapau ʻoku ʻikai te ke loto-tatau mo ʻene ngaahi tuí. ʻI he ʻuluaki taimi te ke talanoa ai kiate ia fekauʻaki mo hoʻo tuí, ʻoua ʻe ʻamanekina ia ke ne liʻaki ʻa e ngaahi tui kuo fuoloa ʻene maʻú koeʻuhi ke ne fili ki ha meʻa foʻou. ʻI he ʻikai lea fakafokifā ʻo pehē ʻoku hala ʻa e ngaahi tōʻonga fakalotu kuó ne tauhi mai mo hono fāmilí ʻi ha taimi fuoloá, feinga anga-kātaki ke fakaʻuhinga mo ia mei he ngaahi Konga Tohitapú. Mahalo pē ʻokú ne ongoʻi līʻekina kapau ʻokú ke līʻoa ha taimi lahi ki he ngaahi ngāue ʻa e fakatahaʻangá. Te ne fakafepakiʻi nai ʻa hoʻo ngaahi feinga ke tauhi kia Sihová, ka ko e ʻuhinga tefitó nai pē eni: “ʻOku ou fiemaʻu lahi ange ʻa ho taimí!” Anga-kātaki. ʻI hoʻo fakaʻatuʻi anga-ʻofá, ʻe tokoniʻi nai ia ʻi ha taimi ke ne koloaʻaki ʻa e lotu moʻoní.​—Kolose 3:​12-14; 1 Pita 3:​8, 9.

12. Neongo kapau ʻoku ʻi ha tui kehekehe ha husepāniti mo hono uaifí, ʻoku totonu ke fēfē ʻa hono ngāueʻaki ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni Fakatohitapú ʻi hono akoʻi ʻo ʻena fānaú?

¹² ʻI ha fāmili ʻa ia ʻoku ʻikai ke fāʻūtaha ʻi he lotú, ʻoku hoko ai ʻa e fakahinohinoʻi fakalotu ʻo e fānaú ʻi he taimi ʻe niʻihi ko ha pole. ʻOku totonu ke ngāueʻaki fēfē ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni Fakatohitapú? ʻOku vaheʻi mai ʻe he Tohitapú ki he tamaí ʻa e fatongia tefito ki hono fakahinohinoʻi ʻa e fānaú, ka ʻoku toe maʻu ʻe he faʻeé ha ngafa mahuʻinga ke fakahoko. (Palovepi 1:8; fakafehoanaki mo Senesi 18:19; Teutalonome 11:​18, 19.) Neongo kapau ʻoku ʻikai te ne tali ʻa e tuʻunga-ʻulu ʻo Kalaisí, ʻoku kei hoko pē ʻa e tamaí ko e ʻulu ʻi he fāmilí.

13, 14. Kapau ʻoku taʻofi ʻe he husepānití ʻa hono uaifí ʻi hono ʻave ʻa e fānaú ki he ngaahi fakataha faka-Kalisitiané pe ako mo kinautolú, ko e hā ʻe lava ke ne faí?

¹³ ʻOku ʻikai ke fakafepaki ʻa e ngaahi tamai taʻetui ʻe niʻihi kapau ʻoku fakahinohinoʻi ʻe he faʻeé ʻa e fānaú ʻi he ngaahi meʻa fakalotú. ʻOku fakafepaki ʻa e niʻihi kehe ia. Fēfē kapau ʻoku fakafisi ho husepānití ke fakaʻatā koe ke ke ʻave ʻa e fānaú ki he ngaahi fakataha ʻa e fakatahaʻangá pe aʻu ʻo taʻofi koe ʻi hono ako ʻa e Tohitapú mo  kinautolu ʻi ʻapí? Kuo pau leva he taimí ni ke ke ʻai ke mafamafatatau ha ngaahi fatongia lahi​—ko ho fatongia kia Sihova ko e ʻOtuá, ki ho ʻulu fakaehusepānití, pea ki hoʻo fānau ʻofeiná. ʻE lava fēfē ke ke fakaleleiʻi ʻa e ngaahi meʻá ni?

¹⁴ Ko e moʻoni te ke lotu ʻo fekauʻaki mo e meʻá ni. (Filipai 4:​6, 7; 1 Sione 5:14) Ka ʻi hono fakamulitukú, ko koe ʻa e tokotaha kuo pau ke ke fili ʻa e ʻalunga ke fou aí. Kapau te ke hokohoko atu fakataha mo e fakapotopotó, ʻo ʻai ke mahino ki ho husepānití ʻoku ʻikai te ke poleʻi ʻa hono tuʻunga-ʻulú, ʻe faifai atu pē ʻo siʻi ʻa ʻene fakafepakí. Neongo kapau ʻoku taʻofi koe ʻe ho husepānití ʻi hono ʻave ʻa hoʻomo fānaú ki he ngaahi fakatahá pe ʻi hono fai ha ako Tohitapu anga-maheni mo kinautolu, ʻe kei lava pē ke ke akoʻi kinautolu. ʻI hoʻo fetalanoaʻaki fakaʻahó mo hoʻo faʻifaʻitakiʻanga leleí, feinga ke fakahūhū kiate kinautolu ha tuʻunga ʻo e ʻofa kia Sihová, tui ki heʻene Folofolá, ʻapasia ki he ongo mātuʻá​—ʻo kau ai ʻa ʻenau tamaí​—tokanga anga-ʻofa ki he kakai kehé, mo e houngaʻia ʻi he ngaahi tōʻonga ngāue totonú. Faifai atu pē, ʻe fakatokangaʻi nai ʻe he tamaí ʻa e ngaahi ola leleí pea houngaʻia nai ʻi he mahuʻinga ʻa hoʻo ngaahi feingá.​—Palovepi 23:24.

15. Ko e hā ʻa e fatongia ʻo ha tamai tui ʻi hono akoʻi ʻo e fānaú?

¹⁵ Kapau ko ha husepāniti koe ʻa ia ko ha tokotaha tui pea ʻoku ʻikai pehē ʻa ho uaifí, kuo pau leva ke ke fua ʻa e fatongia ko hono tauhi hake hoʻomo fānaú “ʻi he akonaki mo e fakatonutonu fakaʻatamai ʻa Sihová.” (Efeso 6:4, NW) Lolotonga hono fai iá, ko e moʻoni, ʻoku totonu ke ke anga-lelei, ʻofa, mo fakaʻatuʻi ʻi hoʻo fekuki mo ho uaifí.

16, 17. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni faka-Tohitapu kuo pau ke manatuʻi ʻe he fānaú kapau ʻoku nau tali ha tui ʻoku kehe mei he tui ʻa ʻenau ongo mātuʻá?

¹⁶ ʻOku ʻikai ke kei tātātaha ʻo aʻu ki he fānau īkí ʻa ʻenau ohi mai ʻa e ngaahi fakakaukau fakalotu ʻa ia ʻoku kehe mei he ngaahi fakakaukau fakalotu ʻa ʻenau ngaahi mātuʻá. Kuó ke fai ia? Kapau ko ia, ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e faleʻi ʻa e Tohitapú kiate koe.

 ¹⁷ ʻOku pehē ʻe he Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá: “Mou talangofua ʻi he ʻEiki ki hoʻomou matuʻa: he ko hono totonu ia. ‘Fakaʻapaʻapa ki hoʻo tamai mo hoʻo faʻe.’” (Efeso 6:​1, 2) ʻOku kau ki ai ʻa e ʻapasia fakapotopoto ki he ongo mātuʻá. Kae kehe, lolotonga ʻoku mahuʻinga ʻa e talangofua ki he ongo mātuʻá, kuo pau ke ʻoua ʻe fakahoko ia ʻo ʻikai tokanga ai ki he ʻOtua moʻoní. ʻI he taimi ʻoku hoko ai ha kiʻi tama ʻo lahi feʻunga ke ne kamata fai ha ngaahi filí, ʻokú ne fua ai ha tuʻunga lahi ange ʻo e fatongiá fekauʻaki mo ʻene ngaahi tōʻongá. ʻOku moʻoni eni ʻo ʻikai ʻi he fekauʻaki pē mo e lao fakamāmaní kae tautefito ʻi he fekauʻaki mo e lao fakaʻotuá. “Te tau taki taha fai ha fakamatala ki he ʻOtua maʻata,” ko e lau ia ʻa e Tohitapú.—Loma 14:12.

18, 19. Kapau ʻoku maʻu ʻe he fānaú ha lotu ʻa ia ʻoku kehe mei heʻenau ongo mātuʻá, ʻe lava fēfē ke nau tokoniʻi ʻenau ongo mātuʻá ke na mahinoʻi lelei ange ʻenau tuí?

¹⁸ Kapau ʻoku fakatupunga koe ʻe hoʻo ngaahi tuí ke fai ʻa e ngaahi liliu ʻi hoʻo moʻuí, feinga ke ke mahinoʻi ʻa e anga ʻo e fakakaukau ʻa hoʻo ongo mātuʻá. Ngalingali te na fiefia, kapau ko e ola ʻo hoʻo ako mo ngāueʻaki ʻa e ngaahi akonaki ʻa e Tohitapú, ʻokú ke hoko ai ʻo ʻapasia ange, talangofua ange, tōtōivi ange ʻi he meʻa ʻokú na fiemaʻu meiate koé. Kae kehe, kapau ʻoku toe fakatupunga koe ʻe hoʻo tui foʻoú ke ke talitekeʻi ʻa e ngaahi tui mo e ngaahi anga fakafonua ʻokú na tukulotoa fakafoʻituituí, te na ongoʻi nai ʻokú ke talitekeʻi ha tukufakaholo ʻa ia naʻá na feinga ke ʻoatu kiate koe. Te na toe manavahē nai ki haʻo lelei kapau ko e meʻa ʻokú ke faí ʻoku ʻikai ke manakoa ʻi he feituʻú pe kapau ʻokú ne afeʻi ʻa hoʻo tokangá mei he ngaahi ngāue ʻa ia ʻokú na ongoʻi ʻe lava ke tokoniʻi ai koe ke ke tuʻumālie fakamatelié. ʻE toe lava foki ke hoko ʻa e pōlepolé ko ha ʻā vahevahe. Ko hono moʻoní, te na ongoʻi nai, ʻokú ke pehē ʻe koe ʻokú ke tonu pea ʻokú na hala kinaua.

¹⁹ Ko ia ai, ʻi he vave taha ʻe ala lavá, feinga ke fokotuʻutuʻu ke feʻiloaki ʻa hoʻo ongo mātuʻá mo e niʻihi ʻo e kau mātuʻá pe ko e Kau Fakamoʻoni matuʻotuʻa kehe ʻi he fakatahaʻanga fakalotofonuá. Fakalototoʻaʻi ʻa hoʻo ongo mātuʻá ke na ʻaʻahi ki ha Fale Fakatahaʻanga ke na fanongo tonu ki he meʻa ʻoku fai ki ai ʻa e lāuleá pea ke na sio totonu pe  ko e faʻahinga kakai fēfē ʻa e Kau Fakamoʻoni ʻa Sihová. ʻI he faai mai ʻa e taimí, ʻe molū hifo nai ai ʻa e fakakaukau ʻa hoʻo ongo mātuʻá. Naʻa mo e taimi ʻoku fakafepaki taʻeʻunua ai ʻa e ongo mātuʻá, ʻo fakaʻauha ʻa e tohi faka-Tohitapú, pea taʻofi ʻa e fānaú mei hono maʻu ʻa e ngaahi fakataha faka-Kalisitiané, ʻoku faʻa ʻi ai pē ʻa e ngaahi faingamālie ke lautohi ai ʻi ha feituʻu kehe, ke talanoa ai ki he kaungā Kalisitiané, pea ke faifakamoʻoni mo tokoniʻi ai ʻa e niʻihi kehé ʻikai ʻi he founga anga-mahení. ʻE toe lava foki ke ke lotu kia Sihova. Ko e kau talavou ʻe niʻihi ʻoku pau ke nau tatali kae ʻoua kuo nau lahi feʻunga ke nofo ai ʻi tuʻa mei he ʻapi fakafāmilí ki muʻa ke nau lava ʻo fai ha meʻa lahi ange. Kae kehe, ko e hā pē ʻa e tuʻunga ʻi ʻapí, ʻoua naʻa ngalo ke “fakaʻapaʻapa ki hoʻo tamai mo hoʻo faʻe.” Fai hoʻo tafaʻakí ke tokoni ki he melino ʻi he ʻapí. (Loma 12:​17, 18) Hiliō he meʻa kotoa, tuli ki he melino mo e ʻOtuá.

20. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi ongoʻi ʻe maʻu nai ʻe he fānaú kapau ko ʻenau tamaí pe faʻeé ko ha mātuʻa-ua?

²⁰ ʻI he ngaahi ʻapi lahi ko e tuʻunga ʻa ia ʻokú ne ʻomai ʻa e pole lahi tahá ʻoku ʻikai ke fakalotu ka ko e palopalema ʻi he fāmili-uá. ʻOku kau ʻi he ngaahi fāmili lahi he ʻahó ni ʻa e fānau mei he ngaahi mali ki muʻa ʻa e taha pe ko e ongo mātuʻá fakatouʻosi. ʻI ha fāmili pehē, ʻe hokosia nai ʻe he fānaú ʻa e meheka mo e tāufehiʻa pe mahalo ko ha fepaki ʻi he ngaahi tuʻunga ʻo e mateakí. Ko hono nunuʻá, te nau fakaangaʻi nai ʻa e ngaahi feinga loto-moʻoni ʻa e mātuʻa-uá ke hoko ko ha tamai pe ko ha faʻē leleí. Ko e hā ʻe lava ke tokoni ke ʻai ke lavameʻa ha fāmili-uá?

21. Neongo honau ngaahi tuʻunga makehé, ko e hā ʻoku totonu ai ke hanga ʻa e ngaahi mātuʻa-uá ki he ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ʻoku maʻu ʻi he Tohitapú ki ha tokoní?

²¹ Fakatokangaʻi neongo ʻa e ngaahi tuʻunga makehé, ko e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni faka-Tohitapu ʻoku ʻomai ai ʻa e lavameʻa ʻi he ngaahi fāmili kehé ʻoku toe ngāueʻaki foki ia ʻi heni. Ko hono tukunoaʻi a e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ko iá, ʻi ha tuʻunga fakataimí, ʻe hā ngali te ne fakaleleiʻi ha palopalema kae ngalingali ʻe iku ia ki he loto-mamahi ʻamui ange. (Sāme 127:1; Palovepi 29:15) Fakatupulekina ʻa e  potó mo e ʻiloʻiló​—ʻa e poto ʻi hono ngāueʻaki ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni fakaʻotuá fakataha mo e fakakaukau atu ki he ngaahi ʻaonga tuʻuloá, pea mo e ʻiloʻilo ʻi hono ʻiloʻi ʻa e ʻuhinga ʻoku leaʻaki ai mo fai ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻe niʻihi ʻe he ngaahi mēmipa ʻi he fāmilí. ʻOku toe ʻi ai mo ha fiemaʻu ki he kaungāongoʻí.​—Palovepi 16:21; 24:3; 1 Pita 3:8.

22. Ko e hā nai ʻe ʻilo ai ʻe he fānaú ʻoku faingataʻa ke nau tali ha mātuʻa-uá?

²² Kapau ko ha mātuʻa-ua koe, te ke manatuʻi nai ʻi he tuʻunga ko ha kaumeʻa ʻo e fāmilí, naʻe talitali lelei nai ai koe ʻe he fānaú. Ka ʻi he taimi naʻá ke hoko ai ko ʻenau mātuʻa-uá, kuo liliu nai ʻenau fakakaukaú. ʻI hono manatuʻi ʻa e mātuʻa fakaenatula ʻa ia ʻoku ʻikai ke kei nofo mo kinautolú, ʻe fāinga nai ai ʻa e fānaú fakataha mo ha fepaki ʻi he ngaahi tuʻunga ʻo e mateakí, ʻo lava nai ai ke nau ongoʻi ʻokú ke loto ke ʻave ʻa e ʻofa ʻoku nau maʻu ki he mātuʻa ʻoku ʻikai ʻi aí. ʻI he taimi ʻe niʻihi, te nau fakamanatu hangatonu atu nai ai kiate koe ʻoku ʻikai ko ʻenau tamaí koe pe ko ʻenau faʻeé. ʻOku fakamamahi ʻa e ngaahi lea peheé. Neongo ia, “ʻoua naʻa ʻoho ho loto ke ʻita.” (Koheleti 7:9) Ko e ʻiloʻilo mo e kaungāongoʻí ʻoku fiemaʻu ia koeʻuhi ke fekuki ai mo e ngaahi ongoʻi ʻa e fānaú.

23. ʻE fakahoko fēfē nai ʻa e akonakí ʻi ha fāmili ʻoku ʻi ai ha fānau-ua?

²³ ʻOku mahuʻinga ʻa e ongo anga ko iá ʻi he taimi ʻokú te fakahoko ai ʻa e akonakí. Ko e akonaki tuʻumaʻú ʻoku mātuʻaki mahuʻinga. (Palovepi 6:20; 13:1) Pea koeʻuhi ʻoku ʻikai ke tatau ʻa e fānau kotoa, ʻe kehekehe nai ʻa e akonakí mei he tuʻunga ki he tuʻunga. ʻOku ʻiloʻi ʻe he ngaahi mātuʻa-ua ʻe niʻihi, ʻi he kamatá, ʻe lelei ange nai ki he mātuʻa fakanatulá ke ne fakahoko ʻa e tafaʻaki ko eni ʻo e tauhi fānaú. Neongo ia, ʻoku fiemaʻu, ke loto-tatau ʻa e ongo mātuʻá fakatouʻosi ki he akonakí, pea poupouʻi ia, ʻo ʻikai leleiʻia ʻi ha fānau totonu ʻo laka ia ʻi he fānau-uá. (Palovepi 24:23) ʻOku mahuʻinga ʻa e talangofuá, ka ʻoku fiemaʻu ke fai ha ngaahi fakaʻatā ki he taʻehaohaoá. ʻOua ʻe fuʻu hohaʻa tōtuʻá. Fai ʻa e akonakí ʻi he ʻofa.​—Kolose 3:21.

24. Ko e hā ʻe lava ke tokoni ke afeʻi ʻa e ngaahi palopalema fakaeʻulungāngá ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo e ngaahi mēmipa ko e tangata pe fefine ʻi ha fāmili-uá?

²⁴ ʻE lava ke fai ʻe he ngaahi fetalanoaʻaki fakafāmilí ʻa e  meʻa lahi ke taʻofiʻaki ʻa e faingataʻá. ʻE lava ke tokoni ʻa e ngaahi meʻá ni ki he fāmilí ke hanganaki tokangataha ki he ngaahi meʻa mahuʻinga taha ʻi he moʻuí. (Fakafehoanaki mo Filipai 1:​9-11.) ʻOku toe lava ke nau tokoniʻi ʻa e tokotaha taki taha ke sio ki he founga ʻe lava ke ne tokoni ai ki hono lavaʻi ʻa e ngaahi taumuʻa fakafāmilí. Tānaki atu ki ai, ko e ngaahi lāulea hangatonu fakafāmilí ʻoku lava ke ne afeʻi ʻa e ngaahi palopalema fakaeʻulungāngá. ʻOku fiemaʻu ke mahinoʻi ʻe he tamaiki fefiné ʻa e founga ʻo e teuteú mo e tōʻonga taau ke fai takatakai ʻi heʻenau tamai-uá pea mo ha fanga tuongaʻane-ua pē, pea ʻoku fiemaʻu ki he tamaiki tangatá ʻa e faleʻi ki he ʻulungaanga totonu ke fai ki heʻenau faʻē-uá pea mo ha fanga tuofāfine-ua pē.​—1 Tesalonaika 4:​3-8.

25. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi anga ʻoku lava ke tokoni ki hono tauhi ʻa e melinó ʻi ha fāmili-ua?

²⁵ ʻI he fetaulaki mo e pole makehe ʻo e hoko ko ha  mātuʻa-uá, hoko ʻo anga-kātaki. ʻOku fiemaʻu ʻa e taimi ke fakatupu ai ha ngaahi vahaʻangatae foʻou. Ko hono maʻu ʻa e ʻofa mo e ʻapasia ʻa e fānau ʻa ia ʻoku ʻikai haʻo haʻi fakaenatula mo kinautolú ʻe lava ke hoko ia ko ha ngāue lavaʻingataʻa. Ka ʻe malava. Ko ha loto poto mo ʻiloʻilo, fakataha mo ha holi mālohi ke fakahōifuaʻi ʻa Sihova, ʻa e kī ki he melinó ʻi ha fāmili-ua. (Palovepi 16:20) Ko e ngaahi anga peheé ʻoku toe lava ke ne tokoniʻi koe ke ke fekuki ai mo e ngaahi tuʻunga kehé.

26. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi founga ʻe lava ke vahevaheʻi ai ʻe he ngaahi palopalemá pea mo e ngaahi fakakaukau ʻo fekauʻaki mo e ngaahi meʻa fakamatelié ha fāmili?

²⁶ Ko e ngaahi palopalema mo e ngaahi fakakaukau ʻo fekauʻaki mo e ngaahi meʻa fakamatelié ʻoku lava ke ne  vahevahe ʻa e ngaahi fāmilí ʻi he ngaahi founga lahi. ʻOku fakamamahí, he ʻoku veuki ʻa e ngaahi fāmili ʻe niʻihi ʻe he ngaahi fakakikihi ʻi he paʻangá pea mo e holi ke hoko ʻo koloaʻiá​—pe hoko ʻo kiʻi koloaʻia angé. Ko e ngaahi māvahevahé ʻe tupu nai ia ʻi he taimi ʻoku fakatou ngāue fakamāmani ai ʻa e ongo meʻá pea fakatupulekina ha fakakaukau “ko ʻeku paʻangá, ko hoʻo paʻanga.” Neongo kapau ʻoku kalofi ʻa e ngaahi fakakikihí, ʻi he taimi ʻoku fakatou ngāue ai ʻa e ongo meʻá te na maʻu nai ai ha taimi-tēpile ʻa ia ʻoku siʻi ai ʻa e taimi kiate kinauá. Ko ha hehema ʻoku tupulaki ʻi he māmaní ko e nofo mamaʻo ʻa e ngaahi tamaí mei honau ngaahi fāmilí ʻi ha ngaahi vahaʻa taimi lahi​—ko e ngaahi māhina pe naʻa mo e ngaahi taʻu​—koeʻuhi ke maʻu ha paʻanga lahi ange ia ʻi he meʻa ʻoku lava ke nau maʻu ʻi ʻapí. ʻE lava ke iku eni ki he ngaahi palopalema mātuʻaki mafatukituki.

27. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ʻe niʻihi ʻe lava ke ne tokoniʻi ha fāmili ʻi he malumalu ʻo e faingataʻa fakapaʻangá?

²⁷ ʻOku ʻikai lava ke fokotuʻu ha ngaahi tuʻutuʻuni ki hono fakaleleiʻi ʻo e ngaahi tuʻunga ko ení, koeʻuhi ʻoku pau ke fekuki ʻa e ngaahi fāmili kehekehe mo e ngaahi faingataʻa pea mo e ngaahi fiemaʻu kehekehe. Neongo ia, ʻoku lava ke tokoni ʻa e faleʻi ʻi he Tohitapú. Ko e fakatātaá, ʻoku fakahaaʻi ʻi he Palovepi 13:10 (NW) ʻoku lava ke kalofi ʻi he taimi ʻe niʻihi ʻa e ngaahi fāinga naʻe ʻikai fiemaʻu ʻaki ʻa e “fealeaʻaki fakatahá.” ʻOku kau ki he meʻá ni ʻa e ʻikai fakahaaʻi pē ʻo ʻete ngaahi fakakaukaú tonu ka ko e kumi ki ha fakahinohino pea kumi ki he anga ʻo e vakai ʻa e tokotaha ʻe tahá ki ha meʻá. ʻIkai ko ia pē, ko hono ngāueʻi ha patiseti moʻoní ʻe lava ke tokoni ia ke fakafāʻūtahaʻi ʻa e ngaahi feinga ʻa e fāmilí. ʻI he taimi ʻe niʻihi ʻoku fiemaʻu ai​—mahalo ʻi ha tuʻunga fakataimi​—ki he ongo meʻá fakatouʻosi ke na ngāue ʻi tuʻa mei he ʻapí ke tokangaʻi ʻa e ngaahi fakamole lahi ange, tautefito ʻi he taimi ʻoku ʻi ai ai ha fānau pe ko e faʻahinga kehe ke tokangaʻí. ʻI heʻene hoko ko e tuʻungá ení, ʻe lava ke fakapapauʻi ʻe he husepānití ki hono uaifí ʻoku kei ʻi ai pē hono taimi kiate ia. Ko ia fakataha mo e fānaú ʻoku lava ke nau tokoni anga-ʻofa  ki he niʻihi ʻo e ngāue nai ʻa ē ʻokú ne fakahoko anga-maheni tokotahá.​—Filipai 2:​1-4.

28. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi fakamanatu, kapau ʻe fai ki ai, te ne tokoniʻi ha fāmili ke ngāue ki he fāʻūtahá?

²⁸ Kae kehe, manatuʻi lolotonga ko e paʻangá ko ha meʻa ia ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻi he fokotuʻutuʻu ʻo e ngaahi meʻa ko ení, ʻoku ʻikai te ne ʻomai ʻa e fiefiá. ʻOku ʻikai moʻoni te ne ʻomai ʻa e moʻuí. (Koheleti 7:​12) Ko e moʻoni, ko e fakamamafa tōtuʻa ki he ngaahi meʻa fakamatelié ʻoku lava ke ne fakatupunga ʻa e maumau fakalaumālie mo fakaeʻulungaanga. (1 Timote 6:​9-12) He lelei ange ē ke fuofua kumi ki he Puleʻanga ʻo e ʻOtuá mo ʻene māʻoniʻoní, fakataha mo e fakapapauʻi ʻa hono maʻu ʻa ʻene tāpuakí ʻi heʻetau ngaahi feinga ke maʻu ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻoku fiemaʻu ki he moʻuí! (Mātiu 6:​25-33; Hepelu 13:5) ʻI he hanganaki fakamuʻomuʻa ʻa e ngaahi meʻa fakalaumālié, pea ʻi he tuli ke ʻuluaki melino ʻi he meʻa kotoa mo e ʻOtuá, te ke ʻiloʻi nai ai ko ho fāmilí, neongo ʻoku vahevaheʻi nai ʻe he ngaahi tuʻunga ʻe niʻihi, ʻe hoko ia ko e taha ʻa ia ʻoku fāʻūtaha moʻoni ʻi he ngaahi founga mahuʻinga tahá.